I love me a bit of musical theatre and there is a song from a musical called into the woods which has really been resonating with me recently.
Careful the things you say,
Children will listen.
Careful the things you do,
Children will see.
Children may not obey,
But children will listen.
Children will look to yo
For which was to turn,
To learn what to be.
Careful before you say
''Listen to me''
Children will listen.
I was watching Hubs and Bubs out in the garden this afternoon and hubs bent down to pull a weed out that had grown and wrapped itself around one of our hydrangeas. He was shaking the leafs where he was trying to unwrap the vine type weed and then all of a sudden Bubba comes up behind him, takes hold of a leaf and starts shaking it. I don't think he knew what he was doing and why he was doing it but in his head Daddy was doing it so he should too.
Yesterday we had to take the bars off of bubba cot (another story for another blog post!) and hubby had the allen key and was unscrewing the bolts. What did Bubba do...he picked up another allen key and started trying to help. He had never held or seen an allen key before but he watched what hubby was doing and started to do the same.
The other morning, I was sitting on the bed getting ready for work and I started to do my make up. Bubba picked up my powder and face brush, opened the lid, swept the brush in the powder and started to put it on his face. It was in that moment it dawned on me what little sponges these little people are and how true those Stephen Sondheim lyrics are. Children really do listen and will look to us to learn what they are meant to do and be.
Hubby and I always try to show Bubb the right way and be good examples. It's not easy and we don't get it right all the time but we try. If we can tr~y then I don't understand why others can't. A while ago we went to the Zoo and whilst Bubba was playing in playground a group made up of 2 women with what looked like under 1's in push chairs, 2 men and about 2 or 3 older children who had run off to play. I couldn't believe it when they started f'ing and blinding so loud that most people in the playground could hear them. It wasn't the swearing that shocked me as much as the way that there were speaking. They were being so aggressive and one of the women was arguing with one of the men and she was threating to 'punch his f*(&ing lights out' whilst almost squaring up to him. The children that were around them were watching and really taking it all in. What kind of lesson is that teaching the kids?? I know people have bad days and have arguments but having to speak and act like that in front of kids...really? Is there any need for it??
All I am trying to say is sometimes WE ALL need to stop and think about what we are doing and who is watching us. Remember that these little people around us look up to us and learn from what we do so we have to teach them to be kind and caring by being just that ourselves.