I became a single parent..

So yesterday I became a single parent for just under 48 hours. Hubby had to stay away for work and left bright and early Tuesday morning, with him due to return at about 7pm Wednesday night. This was the first time I had ever been left for that long on my own with bubs...and I was petrified! I don't even really know why I was worried but I think it was a mixture of Bubs teething and being a misog and me worrying that I would get myself worked up if I couldn't calm him down or get him back to sleep in the night. But there was nothing that could be done and I just had to get on with it.
It sounds a bit dramatic but this experiance has taught me 3 things-
1. All the single mummies (and daddy's) out there... Wow. I applaud you. You are amazing and strong and adaptable and I am in awe of you. I know people who have dealt with being a single parent since newborn days and are amazing parents yet I have to cope with 1 night on my own and I'm a nervous mess! You mummies and daddies are amazing and I don't know how you do what you do.
2. I missed my husband more than I thought and missed him for reasons different that I expected too. I know hubs is very hands on with bubs but I didn't realise just how much I relie on him to help. I also didn't expect to miss his bear like snores next to me but I really did. It was like something was right last night and a piece of our puzzle was missing. I even missed getting an elbow in the head (which is a normal occurrence in our bed!). I just really really missed him and can't wait for him to be back so I can give him a big squeeze!
3. My friends are awesome! Won't go into a huge speach on here as I have done post dedicated to gushing about my lovely friends but I know that last night if it had got really bad and I needed it then I would have had a selection of people here with help and wine :)
I don't know what I was worried about to be honest.. Bubs was fine and was a super good boy all night, I got to watch all my crappy tv and have the blanket to myself and before I know it hubs will be back and our family will be complete again.
I think my biggest piece of advice for anyone who is going to be doing this or worried about this is to just do something special for you. Doesn't have to be big but it could be watching something your other half hates or having a nice long bath or something scrummy for dinner. Then before you know it your loved one will be back again :)
What are your tips for coping with your first night on your own?

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