RANT ALERT.....why do people feel the need to comment on bumps? I am 17 weeks pregnant and I am showing quite a bit. I wasn’t exactly small when I had Pickle so I was expecting to show sooner with baby no 2 but I am bigger at this point than I thought I would be.
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16 weeks pregnant with Pickle
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| 17 weeks pregnant with baby no 2 |
“You look like you’ve swallowed a bowling ball”
“ Are you sure there is only 1 in there?”
“If your this big now then how big are you going to be when you’re 9 months gone?”
“Wow... your all bump aren’t you?”
“Blimey, I was that big when I was ready to pop not half way”
WHAT IS THE POINT?!?!?! How am I meant to response to ANY of those statements???? There is literally no answer to any of them. I’m not going to say thank you because you’ve just basically called me fat. I’m not going to start pouring my worries about my bump out to you as these things are normally said in quite public and inappropriate settings. I’m not going to bite your head off and say what I really want to say (which would be something along the lines of “just fudge off!”) because I’m too polite and don’t want to hurt your feelings like you’ve just hurt mine!
So next time, if anyone out there wants to comment on the size of a pregnant woman’s bump just stop for a minute and think. She is probably hormonal, uncomfortable and full of self doubt and low self esteem at her ever changing body so instead of insulting her why not try one of the following:
“How far gone are you now? Your looking glowing!”
“So how have you been feeling?”
“You’re blooming! Are you getting excited?”
“Bless you... I remember what it was like being pregnant. Do you want a cup of tea or anything?”
Or if you don’t like any of my suggestions of what to say then go right ahead and tell her how round she is.... at your peril!!!
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Oh I’m totally with you! my Bump popped out at 20 weeks and with both of my pregnancies I had really round water melon style bumps. I’ve had all the comments that you’ve written and I think the expectation is that you take it in good humour even if you want to give them a slap. Towards the end of my second pregnancy I got really fed up of the constant comments and couldn’t muster up even a small smile, especially from random strangers. Your bump is your bump and as long as it’s growing your healthy baby and you’re well yourself, sod the rest of them (can you tell I’m also pregnant 😡) x
ReplyDeletePeople just can't help themselves can they. I think they mean well but sometimes get a bit too excited and say the totally wrong thing. It's the same with bump touching!! Actually hate that x
ReplyDeleteI find these comments funny, as if it would be appropriate to say anything like that to someone who wasn't pregnant! For some reason when you become pregnant people feel like they have a place to comment, when perhaps it's best not to :)
ReplyDeleteI really hated that people felt they had a free pass to say random things (or even touch my bump with out asking!!!!) I was really poorly when I was pregnant with my daughter and lost loads of weight because of it, and I had no end of people commenting on things they had no idea about. I much prefer your suggestions and would loved to have heard them all when i was pregnant.
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree more! Some people are so insensitive to pregnant women and don't have any respect for their feelings. I'm a bigger girl in general and also got a bump quite quickly when I have my son. You look fantastic to me x
ReplyDeletePeople just don't think. It applies to so many aspects not just of pregnancy but in life itself. I get hurt when people ask me if my boy is the only one and are we having another. Mind your own bl**dy business. I wish everyone would do just that. I think we all need a sign telling people to butt out. They can all do one lol. Chin up, love your bump.
ReplyDeleteIt drove me mad when I was pregnant, the number of comments I got was crazy. People don’t think, but I really wish they did x
ReplyDeleteOmg I feel so much bigger this time around and I'm nearly 17 weeks. Luckily people seem to be keeping their opinion to themselves!! I've never understood why it's social acceptable to judge a pregnant woman's size when it isn't the rest of the time!!
ReplyDeleteI’m pregnant with baby number two and I’m having the opposite problem. I don’t think my bump is showing nearly as much as I expected it to with my second baby...I’m definitely a bit larger now than I was when I was pregnant with Number 1 but all I seem to do is compare my bump/week to other people’s bumps at the same stage in their pregnancies. It’s depressing...I don’t know if what I’m looking st is fat or bump!
ReplyDeleteWell I think photo 1 was the football bump and photo 2 not to be rude you are more rounded so I am gonna guess team pink.. not long now to you know Amis mumma xxx
ReplyDeleteWell said! I really don’t understand why people feel they have a right to comment on someone else’s appearance.. whether they’re pregnant or not! You look lovely anyway, I hope your pregnancy is going smoothly x
ReplyDelete“You’ve has the longest pregnancy ever”
ReplyDeleteNo no, same time as everyone else (actually my baby was early so less time)
That’s the worst one!
totally agree! You feel self conscious when people comment! One person said to me you look 'huge!' Cheers! How about - wow your bump is beautiful!
ReplyDeleteI don't know why people think it's ok to pass comment on the size of you when your pregnant. It's like we do it when we are not pregnant!
ReplyDeleteI can't believe folk say things like that! How rude! I would never dream of saying other than 'you're looking fabulous!' :)
ReplyDeleteI hated comments on my bump! I felt so much bigger earlier the second time! but over all ended up smaller!
ReplyDeleteI never minded comments on how big or small my bump was, but I totally see why some people would xx
ReplyDeleteI know where you are coming from!! I love that you have offered some lovely alternatives too. Every bump is different.
ReplyDeleteOh yes, it always makes me laugh how people feel the need to comment on a baby bump - be it big or small.
ReplyDeleteI had the opposite problem, I didn't have a bump with any of my five and had some awful comments the whole time about it, as though I had somehow stopped my bump from growing! People need to butt out! Your bump is gorgeous!
ReplyDeleteYou're so right, I hated these comments. People telling me that I was going to have a huge baby, it irked me. People should mind their own business.
ReplyDeleteYou are so right . How ‘big’ is a bump supposed to be?! Ha , use to get my hair off! Probably hormones lol
ReplyDeleteI feel your pain! Both my boys were quite big, and I constantly got the "are you sure it's not twins?" Even worst when people think it's okay to just touch your bump. Hand off!!
ReplyDeleteSecond time around I found that I was much bigger as any muscles I had were completely ruined from my first baby! :D Third time round I was bigger still and it would drive me mad how rude people were. I used to retort, "yes I will be blocking out the sun soon" soon shut them up. :D
ReplyDeleteYou can imagine some of the comments I got when I was carrying twins. I was super huge at the end and people seemed to think I was public property. Mich x
ReplyDeleteOh the twins comment! That one used to grind me! Then if you dare to tell the truth about why you are looking so knackered "can't sleep" they tell you "oh wait till the baby comes. Then there will be no sleep" Not Helping!!!! #bumpsandbabies
ReplyDeleteOh I am in the same boat with you hunny it frustrates me so so SOOO Much that people comment on my belly. I am way bigger this time than my first two babies. Matter of fact I am like you my belly showed and popped early but I am here to tell you 1. you look amazing 2. we are growing humans they are all different 3. people are rude 4. doesn't mean you will end up bigger our bodies are in muscle memory mode the stomach muscles have done this before so they are letting lose earlier than before I was bigger at 12 weeks with this one than 25 weeks with my daughter it scared me so much but to be honest I stayed that popped out belly that EVERYONE commented on those first few weeks it showed up only now am starting to growing rapidly again but it does slow down and then pick up at times. As long as you are happy and comfortable and baby is healthy they shouldn't ever comment on us. I have been ranting about this as well. A lady told me the other day after seeing my Me & Mine photo oh your face looks pregnant now too. WTF? Who says that? The twins comment is just a cliche I roll my eyes. Thank you SOOO Much for linking up to Bumps and Babies can't wait to follow your journey and share our baby adventures together here. #bumpsbabies
ReplyDeleteI had the opposite problem with number one. I only gained 12 pounds the whole pregnancy because I had IUGR and gestation diabetes controlled by diet, so I was eating plain chicken and vegetables for 5 months. People would ask if I was starving myself, if I was bulimic, if the baby had some sort of disorder, if I had some sort of disorder. If only people (especially strangers) would keep their damn mouths shut and be observant and kind.
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People can't help themselves! They love a bump and feel the need to comment.. it drove me insane especially as I had polyhydramnios which meant I had excess fluid in there too as well as a baby! xx
ReplyDeleteI've had loads of comments. I do have big bumps when pregnant and I've heard all of them. Are you sure there's only one of them, wow you're huge, are you ready to drop. Blah blah blah. I can tolerate this to a point but at the late stages it gets really annoying!
ReplyDeleteOh my god this drove me nuts! I wrote a post about this too last year - people can be so bloody rude!! It's not ok to comment on other peoples bodies people - where are your manners??!!
ReplyDeleteTotally agree with you! I got told I was tiny and Nila was 8lb 13 , and the bump rubbing! Leave me alone ha x
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