I want to go back to work |  Blog 

I get asked if I am going back to work a lot. For some reason people seem to think that you have a baby and then automatically don’t want to go back to work. It’s funny because men are never expected not to go back to work after having a baby but for us women it seems to be a given. What’s even crazier though is the reaction when I tell people that I actually look forward to going back to work. They look at me like I’m some she demon that has just grown another head!! 

Why on earth would I want to go back to work when I have 2 little ones at home that I could be looking after? 

Why did I have children if I’m just going to palm them off and not raise them? 

How could I possibly bare the thought of being away from my babies? 

I enjoy my job. It’s nothing fancy or life changing but I enjoy it. I like going to work, chatting to customers and colleagues and doing a good job. For me, work is like a haven and an escape from the usual Mum chores. For the 8 hours I’m at work for I can drink coffee whilst it’s hot. I get to have lunch in peace and without rushing. I get to talk to other adults about things that aren’t Peppa Pig, dirty nappies or thinking step negotiations. For 8 hours I get to be Ami and I love it. Obviously I am still Mum because my babies never leave my thoughts but I get to be me again. The me that isn’t run ragged by 2 children and a dog. I also go to work to teach my children that if we want to have nice things in life then we have to work for it. Pickle knows that Mummy and Daddy go to work to earn penny’s so that we can have holidays, days out and nice things. I want my boys to grow up knowing that things don’t just fall into your lap and that you have to work. 

I understand though that for some people it isn’t that easy. We are very lucky because we have family around that will happily look after our children so that we can both work. We don’t have to worry about nursery costs or fees and I will always be grateful to my mum and my mother in law for helping us with childcare as it’s made things so much easier for us. We are lucky and I recognise that. But I think that if you have the option to leave your children for a couple of days a week then it is good for them too. Not only do they learn the value of work but they also learn to be a bit more independent of you. Yes you will have to leave them but by doing so your letting them learn how to make friends and that you’ll always come back. 

So yes... in answer to everyone that asks me, yes I will be going back to work and I’m looking forward to it. Hot coffee, chats and time to be me... who wouldn’t want that?? 

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