How to Manage Your Money When You Find Out You're Having Twins | Collaboration

Note: This is a collaborative post

Having a baby is expensive so hopefully, you’ve already started planning your finances. You need to
cover the cost of setting up their room, buying all of the clothes, toys, and nappies that you’ll need,
and deal with the financial impact of taking time out of work. But all of that planning goes out of the
window if you go for a scan and find out that you are in fact, having twins. Most parents have a mini
heart attack at this point because they’ve suddenly got to work out how to pay for two kids instead of
one. It might seem like you’re destined to borrow money and be in debt for years to come, but it
doesn’t have to be that way. Dealing with the financial impact of having twins is very tough, but it is
possible if you plan properly. If you’re feeling lost and you don’t know how you’re ever going to afford
having twins, here are some simple tips to help make things more manageable.

Going back to work after maternity leave | Blog

If you have read my blog previously then you will know that I recently returned to work after having 10 months off on maternity leave. I have really enjoyed going back and I think it's been so good to get back into a routine and gain some time away from the house BUT it hasn't been without it's challenges. Going back to work has been tough in so many ways. Obviously I've missed the boys so much, especially Smidge. I don't say that because I love the boys any differently. It's just because I am used to leaving Pickle. I've been back to work since having him so I am used to him going to my Mum and going to school. It was strange being without Smidge at first though. I was so used to seeing him all the time and having him with me . It felt odd to not have to worry about where my baby was and to only have to think about myself. Odd, but nice. I still have days where I really miss both the boys but when I am at work my mind is occupied with other things and I know they are safe and happy so it's all good. 


Polar Wonders Plush Gymini from Tiny Love | Review

Note: this post contains a product I was sent for the purpose of this review but all opinions are honest and my own

When I was pregnant with Smidge I made a list of all the essential things that I needed to buy before he was born...car seat, cot, moses basket, nappies, baby play mat/gym...Yes you read that right, a baby play mat/gym. To me a baby gym is an essential when you have a baby. I remember one of my friends asking me why it was an essential to buy before Smidge was born because he would be a tiny baby that wouldn't be able to play with a gym. The reason I wanted one wasn't about playing. It was about having somewhere safe and stimulating that I could put Smidge when I needed to make lunch or pop to the loo. If I didn't have a baby gym then where else would I put him? I wanted him to know that his moses basket and cot were a place for sleeping rather than playing so by having a baby gym I could put him down for a few minutes whilst I did whatever I needed to do. To me, it just made sense.

There are so many different play mats and baby gyms n the market that it can be really overwhelming to try and find the best one. BUT have no fear!!! I am here to tell you that the only baby gym you will ever need is the Polar Wonders Plush Gymini from Tiny Love and here is why...

Feeling Overwhelmed  |  Blog

Do you ever get so overwhelmed that you don’t know how to fix it? For me, feeling overwhelmed is not just a case of being too busy and feeling a bit stressed. It’s worrying, it’s palpitations, it’s questioning myself and it’s feeling rubbish about myself. For the past few weeks I’ve been feeling more and more overwhelmed and it’s a feeling that only seems to be getting worse and I don’t like it. I feel like I’m spinning so many plates and trying to juggle so much but it’s all starting to fall and tumble around me. I put so much pressure on myself but I don’t know how NOT to. There is so much I want to do and so much I want to be and I’m trying my hardest to be and do everything but it’s just not working.

Being a mother has been hard recently. Pickle is as good as gold and gives us no grief but Smidge... Smidge is a whole different beast. He is so exhausting and draining. He doesn’t sleep. Hubby ends up downstairs with him on the sofa last night but that worries me so much because I get scared of cot death with him on the sofa. He also is such a clingy, demanding baby. He constantly wants to be on my and cries if I leave the room. He is also into everything so I have to watch him 24/7 to keep him safe. I feel like I’m letting him down because of the way he is but I just don’t know how to fix the whole sleep thing. We’ve literally tired everything so we are just stuck. This also makes me feel sad for Pickle. Do I spend enough time with him? Is he happy? Is the way Smidge is having an impact on him? I feel like I’m always berating myself for how I parent. I also put pressure on myself to have an immaculate house. It really stresses me if things are messy or haven’t been cleaned (not OCD standard though) so I always make time to stay on top of the house. I have gone back to work so I’m now out of the house for 3 whole days. When I was on maternity leave, those three days were my time to clean, do washing, do Blog work, film videos, write pitches, write blog posts, stay on top of social media... that time has now gone. I put pressure on myself when it comes to this blog and my social media presence. I feel like I am capable of so much more when it comes to the blog and I get so angry at myself that I’m not putting the time in anymore because I’m tried and not prioriting it. I question why I do it. My follower numbers are awful, my blogs neglected, the opportunities are few and far between and I don’t really have much to show for 4 years of work. But I love writing and I love sharing on social media and I love connecting to the people that do follow me so should I priorities it more? What should suffer so I have time to write? It’s like a whole big mess of stuff in my head that makes me worry and feeling nervous and just completely overwhelmed.

Going back to work has been so good for me. I went back part time almost a month ago now and it has helped me to get some routine back in my life and it’s helped me to find a bit of “me” again. I’ve been able to have adult conversations, use my brain and actually drink my coffee whilst it’s hot! I’m happy that I’ve gone back. BUT, it’s not been without its challenges. I think finding a new routine has been hard and even though we’ve done well with the practical routine, I think I need to now try and figure out a new “mental routine” (if that’s even a thing) to try to balance out everything. I’m trying at the moment but it doesn’t seem to be working. Maybe I will have to give something up to make space for everything? The only thing I’d be able to give up is this blog but I really don’t want to do that!
I’m honestly hoping that this is just a blip. I’m hoping that maybe I’m just feeling a bit hormonal and having a bit of a tough time at the moment and soon I’ll be okay again. That’s why I haven’t really spoken about it before. I suppose it’s a bit of embarrassment as no one like to admit they are struggling but it’s also a bit of hope from me that it will get better.
If you’ve felt like this before I’d love to know how you helped yourself. How did you manage life when things changed? Please either message me on my socials or leave a comment here as any advice is more than welcome ❤️


Some Great Spring Activities for the Kids | Collaboration

When it starts to get around to this time of year, it is obviously much more tempting to begin spending
time outdoors, and in particular this might be how you start to focus your family time spent together.
Making use of the outdoors in spring is something that you will absolutely need to think about, and if
you are a little at a loss for what to actually do you will be glad to hear that there are many options
available for many families which you will be able to consider. In this article, we are going to go
through just a few of the best spring activities for your children which you might want to think about
getting into. All of these are going to be fun and enjoyable, and might even be the kind of thing that
your kids want to do again and again.

Farm Visit

Who doesn’t have fond memories of visiting farms when it came around to springtime? This is one
of the best memories you can instill in your children too, and what’s more it’s the kind of activity that
you will probably find is pretty enjoyable for yourself too. If you want to visit a farm you should be on
the lookout for those which really make the most of the space they have. Many these days will have
entire adventure playgrounds attached, as well as plenty of opportunity for petting animals and so on.
If you take a look at https://www.willowsactivityfarm.com/ you will see a great example of the kind of
farm  that you might want to take your kids too. You should be sure to set aside an entire day for it so
that you can leisurely wander around, and it’s definitely worth taking your camera so that you can
take a few photos along the way too.

Woodland Walk

Sometimes, the most enjoyable things you can do as a family are some of the most simple and
everyday. Once it gets to springtime, you might find that you have a hankering for just walking through
the woods, and this is something that you should consider to be a particularly enjoyable and
worthwhile family event. For your kids, it is good for them to get the exercise and to be able to even
learn a little about the woods in their area. You might be able to point out bluebells or many other
spring sights, and this is all the kind of thing that will really stick with them long into their adulthood.
Woodland walks are among the best quality time you can spend together.

Petting Zoo

It’s hard to imagine any kid who wouldn’t want to go to a petting zoo, and of course spring is the best time for such a visit as there are going to be lambs to hold and even stroke, and maybe baby goats as well. Petting zoos can vary hugely, so you should make sure to research them and find one where you can really get stuck in as fully as possible. That will mean that your kids are going to have a much better time, and that you probably will, too. All in all, it’s one of the best family outings you can have in spring.